After a lovely evening at a friends we got back I was cooking dinner for the two of us and all he wanted to talk about was her! Needed to justify it. I completely lost the plot and I mean completely and kicked him out. And I mean kicked him out suitcases throwing clothes out of the wardrobe he asked me to stop, I asked him if he was going to stop he said no so I said I wouldn't and carried on. the screaming banshee he doesn't want gave him the justification he needed. He's gone and I know I will probably regret this tomorrow but not as much as he will. I need to work on me and my kids and that is all. He will come back through this door when I say so.
Actually as I was reading down through your posts I was thinking "she really needs to kick him the hell out." His behavior is outrageous, just flagrantly carrying on with OW like that. And pulling you in for a kiss? Welcome to crazy town. If he is MLC then do what you can to separate your finances. Full blown MLCers (especially men) will go on crazy spending sprees and trips and accrue crazy amounts of debt and often the LBS gets saddled with some of the debt in the D. I'm not suggesting pursuing D, but you might talk to a L and start protecting yourself financially.
It's possible that getting kicked out may wake him up (sooner or later) but just be careful not to welcome him back with open arms. There are a lot of boundaries you should set up, but that can be discussed more if and when the time comes. Good luck and stay strong!
