Betrayed Spouse - Round 2

[dale165]

Sorry for the late reply, been out of town for an engagement party.

Tread,

Thank you for the reply. I have no problem with people dating when separated. For my situation I don't think it will work because I would bring a lot of baggage into a new one right now. I want to say I read some article before that said a good guideline is to wait 2 months to date for every year you were together. It capped at like 7-10 years. That's a big generalization but it just further made me think and realized Im not ready. Plus just from a personal stance, I don't think it would be right until we are divorced. Im not opposed to hanging out with people that includes women, I just never been the type to have women friends.

Wsh,

Thank you for such a well thought response. You have helped me realize that even though its been 10 months, I really have only been descent at DB for about a month. So I have not experimented enough. This last month I have not chased or brought up R once. Even though our conversations lack much substance, we are getting along pretty good. I do remember things getting better several months ago when she seen me GAL for several weeks. She found what I was doing interesting and asking me a ton of questions. I think I did that for her so it only lasted several weeks.

You are the second person to mention the video series. I will look that up again now. I am now open to new things. Being that I was sad and a naturally stubborn person, it was a bad combination to learn new things. So yes I believe you are right that I owe it to myself and M to at least continue. This last month has been going pretty good. I just find myself physically lonely a bit plus thinking of her one day moving back in. If she ever does, its going to be hard living with another person again because I took over all rooms and bathrooms! Another concern is my family and friends. No one has yet to be mean to W but it would be weird for her coming to Christmas parties and what not. I told her they would be fine but it would take some time and they would respect her if she actually showed some remorse.