Patience is the key, MLC is a long, long marathon (months even years) with with some major roller coasters and numerous step back. Don't mind read, just keep detaching and rebuilding yourself!
Don't engage in any negative circle and learn how to recognize when he tries to start an arguments, that's very important, he might step up his game to make you mad when he will notice that you are not reacting as you used to, just leave the room if it's too much, but do not answer back (don't give him that pleasure).
No R talks at all, just act as a friend/neighbor, the more you can interact with him in a neutral/positive manner, the better it is for you and your kids, kids are very sensitive to the tension between their parents. It brings positivity to the family relationship whatever the outcome can be.
Me 52+ WH 57+ Married 20 + Piecing since 2016 (ready to give up...)
