Help - Setting Boundaries, WW in EA - Thread #4

[Woke_Up]

Well and truly screwed things up today. Let myself be caught in a fight with W, got in her face repeatedly, so she started shoving me away, at which point I told her she should leave and attempted to manhandlw her out of the front door. Didn't work, she fought back, scratching at my face. I didn't defend against it.

This was a complete show of weakness on my part. Shut up and walk away. Why can't I do this? We need separate spaces, that's for sure. I feel disgusted with myself for reacting this way.

Anyway, W has told D5 that we need to live separately. She's right. She's talking about relocating to Wales, not sure how serious she is.

Guess the first step is to actually sell the house.

On top of that, my contract was terminated early on Monday, so finished work on Friday - so I'm job hunting again.

Self examination makes me think I was handing her into physically attacking me, once upon a time I would have played the victim, but I won't. What I did was inexcusable- so I'll own that.

Prior to today, things had been ok, just in a holding pattern. Don't know what brought today on.

I have apologised. I will just work on maintaining space from her, to avoid a future repeat.