Here again part 8

[skyhigh]

Block him on FB and don't share any information about your whereabouts.

Something about OW, usually they have self esteem issues and problem of their own, what kind of woman is willing to engage in a "special" relationship with a married man... they crave the attention they are finally getting from someone and in return they stroke their ego and validate everything and question nothing, they play the perfect girlfriend. At first, OW play it very light (they want to please them so badly) then they start to make demands (they want their cake and eat it too), that's when the fantasy starts to catch on reality. Also, step kids are a big throw back into reality. Talking is something, you say and show only what you want others to know or believe but sharing daily life is "welcome to reality", you can still hide some of your bad habits for a while but usually not for long, also you accept a few things a the beginning but after a while you become irritated. Limerence feeds on fantasy.

Cadence is right also about working on a schedule or a least scheduling time he has the kids, he needs a dose of reality, I remember I took 2 kids with me for a sport event week end and he stayed with our youngest one (10 at that time), he had to reorganize his little gym/nap/going out with his buddies schedule not only for one night but from Friday afternoon until Sunday night, he couldn't just come and go.

No R talks at all, work on being detach, at first it's very tough, you have to fake it then little by little it comes along, and one day you have it. It's doesn't stop the anger or the frustration but they do hurt you the way it was, you are becoming "waterproof". Read the thread of Psysara and skim0619, how they struggled with detachment until they realize it was the best way to survive, thrive and actually have a positive impact on the relationship with their WH.

You can do it, even if now you feel powerless, angry, frustrated and desperate. All those feelings are NORMAL, you have been hit with something terrible, you are suffering from PTSD, so get help, don't think you can do it without being help (I thought I could do it without it), I have a medical background, one of my friend tried to persuade me to see my FP, I refused many times, until one day, I had enough of crying, not sleeping well, also those obsessive thoughts were really an obstacle to my daily life and being the mom I wanted to me. He prescribed me with Wellbutrin, it helped me to detach even more, I took it for 6 months and I stopped.

I have to go...