You can't nice them back, my man. Your course is putting you on the path to D. I believe that whole-heartedly. I too once tried to nice my cheating wife back. Didn't work. Once I realized I deserved so much better, found my strength, stopped putting up with her sh*t, and made plans to move on without her and have a great life, man that changed everything. I went from pursuer to pursued. If you're the man of any lady's dreams then you'll be the man of her dreams.