Thanks everyone. You are all right and Cadence your worlds and explanation is exactly why I was regretting getting into the conversation. He continues to lie it won't change but I just felt for the first time I decided it was time for me to stand up band not be a doormat.
He still continues to talk to the boss daughter for hours late at night.
I can promise that is the last talk I will have with him. Even if he tries to have a talk with me after he's finished taking his space and wants to tell me it's over he's made his decision I won't have that conversation. I'll only involve myself in necessary children and financial conversations.
He said he was coming to stay the night tonight. I think I need to leave while he's here. I don't have any plans and most of my friends are busy so I'm not sure what I'll do.