Still backed off, but I feel badly for D26 right now. XH still hasn't been released yet from the hospital, so she's been driving to spend the day with him every day (3hr round trip) while dealing with her own medical appointments and work. He doesn't want to see or communicate with anyone right now, so she's fielding all calls and is his only visitor. He only speaks on the phone to make sure business is being taken care of or if D26 is not there. She plans to take him to her house this weekend if he's released...I'm sure he'll fight with that idea, but not my problem.
I have not communicated with him since I said I would back off; only with her (although once while she was sitting next to him). For some reason, my head was spinning on the whole "I need to be there to speak to drs, help him, comfort him" idea as if we were still together, even though you all are right...I was fired from that. I'm very thankful for the 2x4 and support. Although I care about him, it really hit home that I really need no involvement in this. He asked that I be informed. That's all. Just like his family and office staff. I offered my help...twice. He heard me and appreciated it. I'm sure others have offered help in various capacities. But right now he only wants D26 to be there. I guess that's a gift I should be thankful for. So...I am. And it has been a load lifted from my mind.
Now I just feel better offering emotional and mental support to D26. She actually seems to enjoy venting and talking on the way home from her visits (everyday they say they will "most likely release him" then don't). I think it gives her a chance to vent before she gets home to her husband. Better my attention be turned there.
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
