Gordie I am happy to share my opinions but I don't fully understand your question. My M is sex starved but not only. I am working on improving the rest with glacial progress. I believe it is possible to turn my situation around.time will tell.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together