Just to be clear on this: you're suggesting that I need to relive the trauma of this year to heal?
No, Cadence and Vapo (and now me) are just saying you can't bury or ignore your pain and grief. If you do it'll just come out at some unexpected time later, and be 10x worse! You've got to let yourself feel the pain and go through the recovery process. Don't fight it, let it happen. I am NOT a crier. I never, ever cry. In fact there was a time in my life that I wondered if it was even possible for me to cry. There were times I thought I should cry but couldn't. After BD? I would cry all the way to work (30 minute commute). Then I would cry all the way home. Then I would gather myself to walk in the house and greet the kids, then go and lock myself in the room and cry some more. It was absolutely horrible, I hated crying so much but I let it happen. Eventually it tapered off and then stopped, and then I learned to live with the pain, and then I learned to start living again, and then I learned to start loving life again. Don't push the pain away and pretend it's not there, that's all we're saying. Let it happen, the fastest way to recovery is through the pain, not around it.
