I have been on these boards for many years, more than my signature says. You actually went and gave an explanation for everything again. That's what I mean by defensive. I can't begin to tell you how many times on here posters say "but I don't think I am putting my situation across clearly" Yes you are. My advice does not change, and if you can see AS posted the same thing I did. Many posters have posted the same thing. I highly doubt we aren't all wrong and seeing things unclearly.
Here, mull over this.... You directly told her you would "emotionally and financially support her" So, if it's the law in the UK, you didn't have to say a thing.......
A wise person once said " listen to understand, not to respond"
