Do you live in the UK? If so you will know that it doesn't matter if she's hitched up with a multi-millionaire I STILL HAVE TO SUPPORT HER FINACIALLY IF CHILDREN ARE INVOLVED.
"I am sorry, but leaving the family home was not the "strong" option. Unless you had to do it for yourself because you couldn't live with her. You did that because you hoped she would see what a good guy you are by leaving the house and letting her have what she wants."
In my previous post you'll see that I could no longer continue to live with her whilst she was in an A due to the mental torture I and my children we being put through (don't dare come between a WW and her AP/LO whilst in phase 1 of limerence - infatuation), this is classic boundary setting - she would not leave so I had to! Unfortunately the UK seems to favour the wife/mother irrelevant of the circumstances but this is slowly changing.
If I'm coming across as defensive I apologise but feel I'm not putting my situation across too well. I'm not saying I strictly adhere to the DR book BUT I continue to manage my situation the best I can.
"You aren't making yourself look like the best option" I disagree, this doesn't really matter anyway due to the fact she ONLY see's her AP/LO at the moment BUT in a previous post you will see other people are seeing my improvements so something is working well. Again I'm not suggesting IF and when she or he come to their senses she will come back to the F and our M BUT I am suggesting I will continue to work on me for me and use the added bonus of me having been the consistent friendly safe place for her to begin again if that's what she wants. We are DB'ing aren't we..?
"I know you are trying, but you have a defensive remark regarding everyone's advice trying to prove you are going about this the right way. Listen to what these people are telling you, they are trying to help." again sorry to be defensive but I have never said my "way" is the right way but the one I choose to adopt, one that is based on DR'ing and the limerent process.
I again appreciate your comments and apologise for being defensive.
Take care.
Mark.
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
