It has nothing to do with revenge. Not trying to get him to hate his mother, he already knows she cheated. But in my family we consider it highly disrespectful to even associate with a man like this under these circumstances. Nothing to do with revenge, but it's a loyalty thing. That's what I have always taught my son. Lile it was taught to me and my siblings by my parents. I want S13 to love his mother, but he also needs to know that her actions are dead wrong. And that you never accept someone like OM.
Let me ask you...... what if your S decided not to hate this guy? I hope you wouldn't hold anything against him for doing so.
He's a kid. It's a long very complicated story of my dad leaving my mom. My mom was not mentally well. even though all in the same house until I was 17, my dad pretty much raised me. He left when I was 17, and it was never confirmed nor denied that his wife now of 15 years was his A partner. definitely an EA going at least. And my mom knew. And my mom lashed out at me because I still loved my dad as much as I did before, and I spent time with him and his then GF. I can't begin to tell you what this did to me.
I know you are hurt. My daughter's stepmother is the OW. My D9 actually knows what they did. Doesn't understand it fully, but knows. But she loves her dad and she loves her stepmother. And my hope for my daughter is simply that she is loved and never has to feel guilty of having certain feelings.
Please, please, please, don't use your son to how consequences of your W's actions. one person gets hurt in that and it's your son.
