Except for exposing to 3rd parties, which I think can backfire and make you look like the scorned wife, (& makes recon harder b/c pushing the affair into the "public" arena often pushes the APs into each other's arms more, in an "us against them" view)
I agree with everything skyhigh wrote. Skyhigh my apologies if I misunderstood the exposure comment.
Yes to all else, and get copies of finances and you CAN get half of any money out of a joint account and if I had not been hospitalized when my h planned his exit, I absolutely would have.
It's been a HUGE hassle $$$ having to get subpoenas to banks we both banked at but which h was able to block me from when I wasn't looking. You will need MONEY/CASH.
My h is an MD and I'm borrowing money to get through this crap which is mortifying after 35 years and 3 kids.
I'm not saying to escalate, I'm saying to protect yourself. He has now filed for D
so the cards will fall where they fall. Don't let them fall on you.
He can wake up later to the wreckage and try to repair it.
You don't want to be in the wreckage
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
