Well I may have made an errror tonight. H called. He never showed up to see the boys. He lied about where he was. Then brought up some [censored] about having no money.
I'm sure tonight wasn't the night but I said H do g insult my intelligence. We both know that's not the truth. I said you need to start being honest with me.
He went on asking what I was talking about. I left it vague and just said something along the lines of a house. He proceeded to say he didn't have the money blah blah I don't even remember everything he said. I said again I'm not getting into this just letting you know I won't tolerate any lying.
Then he started to go on about how he just needs space just a week or two to decide what he wants. That he needed a break from us always talking about it. That he's not saying it's going to work out we may need to just make a schedule for the kids. I didn't really say much. He went on that there was too much arguing. He was unhappy. I validated where I could but didn't feel like I should validating someone that's lying. So I said I'm sorry you felt you needed to leave to get space.
The conversation went on longer than it should and I sat quiet most of the time. H even said hello a few times. I said yes I'm here just listening.
Basically he just said he needs space he can't give any answers. I said I'm not asking for answers. I have only asked for you to share the parental responsibility and help out as a dad and nothing more. The only other thing I'm asking is for honesty.
He said he was going to spend the night tomorrow night and 'possibly' the weeekend.
I wanted to say no it's not a possibly. We aren't a doormat. But I didn't want the conversation to take a wrong turn so I left it be and got off the phone.
I don't. Believe a word he says. Him Saying he needs space and just needed two weeks is a lie. Because then he said well at the end of the two weeks I may decide this isn't going to work and we need to go our separate ways. I'm just not sure. That's why I had to get away so I could make a clear decision that I will live with for the rest of my life. I didn't want to say I'm done while we were arguing. I want to know I'm done when things are calm between us so I know it's the right decision. I just said okay.
