Count on ups and downs (III)

[peacetoday]

Yes Ester is good and very similar in teaching

It is hard to say,,I don't know your full situation

sometimes with a mcler we have to try different techniques to see if anything helps
you seem like you are practicing good skills with her
validating, avoiding conflict, leaving her be

you may read mixed messages because they are usually confused
they change their minds but the crises will pull her further out to sea -u won't be able to stop that if its true MLC

remember
the crises is not about us ,,It is about their unhappiness with their lives, them selves and unresolved issues of their childhood-the unresolved issues I believe are the main reason for MLC,,nothing to do with us


if she wants you to move out,,you can ignore it for now-
It may be best to seek legal counsel first to see where you stand financially..we have to protect ourselves and the kids because a MLC will want it all and they can overspend

so I wouldn't leave .
she may want to leave,

and If you get legal advice it does not mean you will get D,,Its just getting information
being one step ahead of the mlcer

so continue to take care of you
make sure you eat exercise and rest
this road is bumpy
you will need your energy to deal with her
time will heal you and if you hang in no matter what happens with wife you will overcome this and become better from it
listen to ester every chance you get and continue forward
you will have more answers later