I don't know if you remember the story, but when I was snooping/following H's activities, I saw that - after weeks of lying to me - he booked a hotel room for two.
I bought a bouquet of hideously redneck flowers and a "best wishes" card, signed it "your wife," and dropped it all off at the hotel "concierge", telling them I had been the couple's matchmaker and just wanted to leave my well-wishes.
Oh boy, did I hear about that one! Lol!
I'm all about you coming up with a discreet wink-wink way to let H know that you know about the new mortgage. But YOU have to be in the proper mindset to pull it off. And it must come from a place of strength - almost like you already know it's going to eventually be a bust - and not a place of desperation or being a victim.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014