Here again part 8

[Train]

I think dropping the rope, in many ways, is probably seen differently by many people, depending a lot on where they are on their journey.

To me, it's more of an action than a feeling.

Detachment, on the other hand, is a feeling. You don't get that until later.

Dropping the rope is what you do in the meantime. It's letting your H go do whatever his little selfish heart desires while YOU protect YOU. Block his number for a few hours each day. Stop seeing yourself as a victim of his bad behavior, and start finding *opportunities* in the madness.

If I could turn back the hands of time to 2014, I would have had even MORE fun! I would have told myself to join an all-women, kicka$s, boot-camp style exercise group (which I recently did and cannot. get. enough. of. it., but I totally should have done it back then to start feeling better about myself and to develop another community of supportive, encouraging female friends to lift me up and push me when I most needed it). That week-long beach trip I took alone with the kids? I would try to find ways to take more of them. Even just weekend trips. I would have used my "babysitters" more, and I would have gone out to TRY to laugh with my girlfriends. Or even cry at a good, sappy movie. I should have gone to the club and cut a rug at least once. I would take that zip-line adventure I was researching. And I would take that freaking pottery class I've always wanted to take!

But, alas, I couldn't squeeze ALL that fun in because H was noticing just the *little bit* of fun I was having and decided he wanted to come back and be a part of it!

I know it's harder with a baby and while you're working and in school. I was there in 2006, too, remember? I've gotchu, girl. I'm right there with you in as many ways as I can be.

But, T, you CAN do this. I know you can. Things are going to work out. I know you don't believe me, but they WILL. In a year from now ... just you wait ... you'll see! You'll be a different person and will look back and wonder why you fretted so.