Um no. The EA and his stupidity - and his ego - pushed him away.
And who wants a H in the house who is lying about dang near *everything* anyway?! There was no way I could have done it. That's why, as soon as my H shut the door behind him, the locks were changed.
You are still dealing with a LOT of hormones right now, too, T. And I have to believe that's one reason you are clinging so hard to the idea of keeping H around. It's normal, just after you've had a baby, to want an intact family.
But I know this M isn't what you want. And I know you know that you and the boys deserve better.
I truly mean this: the best thing you can do to fight for your M is to not fight at all. You've held that rope so tight for so long that if/when you drop it, H is gonna notice. Which is exactly what needs to be happening.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014