Here again part 8

[Train]

T,

It's what he's getting from OW. Plain and simple. That's the answer to "how." (FWIW I agree with you that it doesn't sound physical; I personally think that's what has stopped him from committing to leave the past couple months. In my experience, a man needs to have it all ... including, in fact *especially*, sex ... to ditch his family. I don't think your H necessarily wanted to physically leave. I feel he was on the fence and the stress from all the R talks/expectations just pushed him over the edge. (Please don't think I mean that like it's your "fault.") I'd bet he's questioning it all, and a lot might depend on the level of commitment of the OW/boss's daughter.

I would make an educated guess that at least 95 percent of the people who end up here are dealing with affairs, sometimes without even realizing it. It's rare for couples to just grow apart over time. Affairs cause similar effects as drugs on a person's mind, too. Google it. That's one reason we can't process our spouses' decisions when they're involved in an affair: it would be like understanding a drug addict who chooses drugs over family.

And just to be clear, I don't think you should "confront" your H about potential-OW or his lying. I think you should make decisions for you and your family, assuming that he *is* having, at the very least, an EA with this woman, and he is lying. Because, well, it's pretty clear that he *is*.