WAW and the Big D

[Bdog37]

Need advice plz!

So recently STBEW introduced our children to her new boyfriend. It was no shock that she didn't tell me she was doing this or asked if I wanted to meet him first. I found out from my oldest.

A little recap on him; he is 42, lives with 4 roomates, and plays in a local band. His family history worries me the most as his mother is in prison for murdering his father, brother is in prison for attempted murder, and cousin is in prison for murder. I know for a fact that he also has 2 prior convictions, but I do not know what they are. If they are for violent crimes then I am obviously concerned for my children. He does have a day job and works Mon-Thurs. He does not have a valid drivers license and does not own a vehicle. Also, I know who he associates himself with and I know for a fact that some of those people do drugs. I have no evidence to believe he does, but he is friends with known drug dealers and users.

My oldest is 9 and had informed me that she went to a party at his grandma's house where she was allowed to play Grand Theft Auto 5. If anyone knows what that is then they would most likely not allow their 9 year old to play such a video game.

After hearing this, I of course was upset, but didn't bother to contact STBEW. Instead I contacted him via text. After calming down I sent a simple text that read;

"Since you are starting to hang out with my kids more I believe it is time we should meet." "Let me know when you are available".

He replied a short answer saying he agrees, that its only fair, and he will let me know.

Now, they have only been together for about 4 months so I am pretty upset about the whole situation. I have a million questions to ask him, but I'm sure he will not be cooperative and answer them truthfully.

I am wondering if there is anyone on here that has had to have such a talk, how they went about it, where did they meet, and if they have any suggestions for me?

I would truly appreciate it!!