Here again part 8

[Zues126]

T0, on my way to work and don't have much time but wanted to know we're all here rooting for you.

Let go of the ticking clock on the house purchase idea. This is totally focused on him, his actions, his choices, etc. As long as you focus on that you will end up trying to control his behavior which won't work for either of you. It will drive him further and further away and it will hurt you more and more.

You really have to get that he is his own person and gets to make his own choices, and you can LET HIM. In exchange, you are your own person and you get to make your own choices. Do you want to choose to be a person that tries to control her spouse (either through begging/pleading or anger/confrontation)? Or do you want to be the person that says to herself, "well, that [censored], guess I will take care of myself and baby and start rebuilding my life without WAH"?

The reason I am against confrontation is I don't see any way it is not coming from a place of controlling at this moment. And if you take out the goal of control, there really isn't much to say to WAH at all anymore, is there? Sure, in a week or two maybe if things are calm you can piece out a schedule. But for today there's not a lot to say.