Yeah I agree with Ginger. He sounds like he's starting a MLC and wants to escape his life full of responsibilities. It always makes me a little angry to hear about so-called men walking out on their wives and new babies like this, but it certainly happens a lot. I guess some men imagine marriage to be dinner waiting on the table every evening followed by sex and a backrub as they go to sleep? These guys need to man-up and own their responsibilities instead of storming out and leaving a path of wreckage in their wake. But I digress...
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I want to feel better. How do people let go? How do you stop looking at someone and feeling all the feelings you have felt for them the last 13 years. How do you stop looking at them and just wanting to scream can't we figure this out? Look at our beautiful family.
Of course you want to feel better!! Who would ever wish this misery on themselves? It's awful! But just like grieving the loss of a loved one, recovery takes time. How much time varies from person-to-person, but it's usually a lot longer than we hope or expect. In my case I thought I was good after about a year, but looking back I think it was more like 2 years to fully recover. And really, like losing a loved one you never really "fully recover" from it. You just learn how to live with it and move on. But at first your goal is to just get through one day. And if that sounds like too much, then just get through the next hour. Don't spend time spinning on the future right now, just concentrate on here and now and getting through it a little at a time.
