I have finished reading SSM by Michelle. Michelle's approachaand thinking process is very similar to that in DR, which is coherent. In the book she tries to talk to everyone affected be it male, female, more desiring or less desiring. Not everything applies to everyone but it gives insight to the other side of things.

I took some action points away from the book which I probably will outline in my next thread (#10!!)

I also have a similar book written for guys in a SSM. When I finish that I will use both to fine tune my approach going forward.

Best wishes to all readers

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together