Limerence and My Situation

[Parkema]

Hi Coconut,

I have a punch bag for my frustrations and I think as you can tell from my posts I'm actually quite controlled but thanks for the offer of the advice.

Blu, AS,

Last night your insights hit home a little more due to the interaction I had with my WW, I understand there is no guarantee that she's going to come back to me and I've realised this from the outset. All I'm saying is that IF she or HE comes to the point where this all comes crashing down I don't want to have placed myself at a disadvantage for RC due to me acting the jerk.

Your examples listed indicates more often than not the A's in your experience ends, true the outcomes are totally different but we have a saying here "horses for courses" I'm backing me to be the favourite...

Showing her the person she "fell" for initially I feel is giving me the best chance of the above to happen, I also understand that doing all of the DR'ing and my P.I.E.S will aid in me moving forwards in my life with or without her. Today when I took my boys to school a woman who we both know said "Mark you're looking well" I said "I feel well" and walked to work with a springer step than usual.

Obviously this is totally lost on my WW as she doesn't see me at all at the moment due to her infatuation with her AP/LO but regardless of if she does or does not life goes on and it's obvious that me working on me is having a benefit.

I read on so many posts that in most cases the LBS eventually gets to a point where he/she "lets go" of his/her WS and I can totally understand this. I am beginning to care less and less about her and am progressively finding it hard to continue to want to work on my M BUT when I have the boys and I see/feel the interaction we "all" have when we're together including my WW is brings it back home. A pity she doesn't see it.

Again all I HAVE TO HAVE THE INTERACTION I can't get away from it unless I find a solution to the financial issues or she finishes work earlier (I can't control that) so I make the most of it but I am finding it harder and harder to care about my M and that is scaring me a little bit.

Would you suggest this happen and I give up working on showing her that's she's wrong in doing what she's doing? The logical progression for this is D and I'm not here to aid in that process although I accept it if it's inevitable which it might just be but I continue to fight. What would both you do..?

Thanks again.

Mark.