The only things I validate my H on at this time involve the children. When he spends time with them and is kind to them, I show appreciation for that. I certainly don't validate that he is messing around with another woman, telling lies, etc.
I guess my point is TO, it is something you aren't going to change. You won't "mean" him to stop and you won't "nice" him to do it. He is going to do what he is going to do. I try not to focus on things over which I have no control, because that leads to sheer madness.
