Since I last posted, my situation has not improved. I continue to follow a detachment course, but it's not having the desired effect on my wife.
It takes TIME. Like most LBSers, you're expecting too much too soon. You have to be ready for a long haul- many more months or even years. Read this that you posted again:
"I'm guilty of being moody, irritable, complacent, taking my wife for granted, and not being friendly to her mom."
Your W endured years of that (I'm not saying she was perfect and you were awful, this is all about her perception of things). Do you think it's reasonable to expect her to think you're "cured" and that things will be perfect if she gets back together with you after a few weeks or months? You have to do 180's on your faults and do them until they are permanent behavior. At first W will resent you for changing because she thinks it's "too little too late". She will also resent you because she'll see it all as tricks to try and get her back. It takes a long, long time of consistent changed behavior before the WAS starts believing that you really may have changed for good, and longer yet for her to start to want the new, improved you.
