I'm a very lucky person, but still fine tuning

[woundedfool]

but I think this is definite testing of the waters given that she was clearly trying to play upon your holiday-related emotions.

Never crossed my mind about that part of the timing. You are exactly right.

She would value you and any new relationship less if you enabled her such that she didn't have to take risks. Make her find her courage and work.......(This is not to hurt her, but to force her out of her comfort zone to set up any R up for success.)

I really like this thought! (this is the kind of perspective/brainstorming I was hoping to get)