Divorced by 2016

[DonH]

Interesting topic. My perspective is from my POV. I have someone interested in me who constantly texts me. If I'd pick up my phone she could see I was "active" on a messaging app and be there in minutes - no matter time of day or night. I HATED IT! I've known her for 15 years but it wasnt until last thanksgiving that anything happened between us. But it's really turned me off to her. At first I thought it may be me and the fact she was so interested was triggering something in me to pull back. Yet, I thought highly of her before so it may well just be her being there at every minute just hoping to talk to me that is a creepy turn off. Whether she really was doing that or not is irrelevant - it feels that way. I finally stopped responding.

And texting constantly on a girls weekend? Yet another red flag and pushing boundaries. Check in on me perhaps once a day to see how things are going but constantly? That's just wrong and would run me off. I have to wonder what your friends said (behind your back if course). I know I've heard many times over the years about stories like this where usually a group of guys would go away and a woman would not leave one of them alone. I've heard it less with a guy doing it to a woman although one time where the women constantly called and texted her guy as well while on a girls trip. Less is more. At least with me.

I never know if it's me who looks at this stuff differently or if I'm seeing it correctly. I just know that if someone is there at every turn, constantly calls, texts, responds in seconds, it's a turn off. Sort of like DB says