Athas, I've read every word of your posts and I'm still really confused. Please understand I'm not asking you "to get all soppy" as you said, LOL! But your posts are filled with anger and resentment towards your W, and maybe even some hatred. You sound furious, you literally have nothing good to say about her. But then every once in a while you pepper in a comment that you want her back. Why? Why would you want to be married to someone who's goals are so diametrically opposed to yours? Someone who keeps leaving you, who ranks you so low below her family, who has no respect for you, who talks so poorly to you and about you? I get the impression that your goal is really to have your D with you, and I would totally understand that. But if THAT is your goal, then dragging a W that you hate into your home just to have D there is NOT a worthy goal and is NOT the sort of thing DB'ing is here for. So again- WHAT IS YOUR REAL GOAL?


Me: 60 w/ S18, D24, D27

M: 21 years; BD: 06-14-12; S: 09-10-12; D final: 03-17-14; XW:57