Honey you know I love you, right? So here's my 2x4:

You've been fired from the job of being his wife.

That doesn't mean you can't be his friend.

So - if your friend was in this situation, what would you do in terms of assistance?

In other words Cil, how can he miss you if you aren't gone?

Detach. Detach. Detach.

This is an opportunity for chickens to come home to roost. He didn't want to be married, so he ought to know what that means - in good times and in bad.

No vengeance or vindictiveness intended towards him. Simply that you are not his wife, so don't act like it. Tough to do when you still care, and were married for so many years, AND it hits your core issue of being left out.

Step back. Treat him like a friend. Let the chips fall.

xoxoxo
{{{{{hugs}}}}}


M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver