Oy. Is there a shortcut to learning the new rules that seem to have evolved around dating since my time when phones attached to walls with curly cords?
I love the banter of texting but apparently it can be misinterpreted as... - overwhelming...do we chat every day? If we don't does it mean you're mad at me? If we do does it mean we're "going steady" or something? - teasing...you can't fully explain anything via text...is it just attempting to keep you thinking about me or simply an indication that I was thinking about you and felt like saying Hey? Am I thinking about you too much? Why or why not? - intrusive. Is that 10pm Hey interrupting your kid's bedtime? Your bedtime? Nothing at all? Hot s*x with someone else? If you answer right away does it confirm you were waiting with nothing else to do? Or does it confirm that you think I think you have to respond right away? - a replacement for actually speaking or getting together. Do we have to set up an appointment to talk on the phone or does anyone still just call and leave a message? If we texted for an hour is the idea of speaking on the phone moot now?
Random thoughts. I am not a game player but it's a game anyway, as perceived by the recipient, and can't be avoided during the getting to know you phase. I feel like if i'm thinking of you and feel like saying Hey... I will and let the chips fall.
Don't worry, i'm not going to overthink this. Just find it fascinating and novel at the moment, fraught with unintended perceptions. And stupid weird emoticons. I hate those (except ☺).
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
