Cadence, I just need to say every post I have ever read of yours is PHENOMENAL. Are you a psychologist? I am serious.
That even made me read into my own R habits. With my ex H I was definitely thinking if I could get someone as unhealthy to love me, it showed I was worthy of love. While I can now walk away from unhealthy or relationships that simply can't work, I always tie it to my worth and say "well, if they would have stayed and then I am worthy enough."