This is a tough situation. Mostly for your daughter, whose parents now live in different hemispheres. And i get youre frustration and anger.
A lot of it sounds like cultural misunderstandings. I have family members that married spouses of a different culture and it definatly involves compromise from both sides.
I remember hearing when their newborn arrived, that it was common place to send the newborn to live with grandparents (in a different country) while both parents went to work! As a mom in the states, the thought of that makes my heart race...just like the thought of living and supporting your in laws does with you.
And here's the thing, you're perspective is telling you that you are right. That it's ridiculous and unfair to have your in laws move in...but her perspective is different. She can't understand why your so opposed. She is obviously family oriented but to a whole other level.
Maybe her culture has some merit. Think of how nice it would be to know that when YOU get old, you're daughter would take you in as opposed to having you live in a subpar nursing home in the third world country that America will probably turn into.
But regardless of whose perspective is right. There's something more important at stake here, and that is you're daughter.
I don't think she's going to resent her mom for pushing you out. She's going to See it as her dad left and moved to another continent. Personally, I would live in a card board box if it meant having more access to my child.
So rather then looking at which is the best place to live, I would look at it as how can I best serve my daughter.
Being present in your daughters life needs to be a priority. The opportunity to be a father is truly a blessing.
