Count on ups and downs (III)

[WillDo]

Thanks roist/peacetoday

Me, myself and I

I am trying hard to keep my cool. Any advise on how to handle W's demands. I am listening, validating but she is asking for answers and blaming me for stonewalling. The only statement I made was regarding stonewalling. I said this conversation hurts hence I am stonewalling. She wants me to join the conversation of how she should decorate and put new furniture in to the flat. She said it would be economical sense for me to move out. Blamed me again for leaving everything to her including seperation and divorce. Of course the day before it felt she was coming closer to me. Again read it wrong.

How should I behave? I am trying not to lecture, beg ,plead, cry. I am doing one of the rules. Avoiding conflict. I really can't put it to words. I can't believe I have been able to cope with out sharing my deep feelings.