A WW? (8)

[lt0402]

I think you'll find that even though it's been a year, you will still go through some big changes in attitude, mourning, and feelings once you split. There is something to the saying absence makes the heart grow fonder. I'm not saying that you are likely to change and want her back, I'm just saying that time and distance change perspectives.

Yeah, maybe. Only time will tell I guess. I just look back at all the mess of the past year and there's no way I want to re-live that. Right now I'm hoping for a good co-parenting R and I'm hoping that W finds happiness and stability for my Ds sake. I do still care about W, but I don't see any path once we split for us to come back together. Feels like I've put myself out there and she's just crapped on every part of me. But yeah, it'll be interesting to see where I am 6 months from now.

Keep up your DB'ing, call it what you want but continuous improvement will increase your quality of life, whether it be by yourself or someone else. I've recently realized how many little things I stopped doing, sure I've continued with my GAL and socializing, but I allowed my self to get lazy and not shave everyday, wear "comfortable" clothes (too often) when home alone, I realized how good doing those little things made me feel about myself.

I think I view it as just living life w/ a much more enhanced skill set than I had before. You're right that we should be trying to constantly improve ourselves and those around us. Hope you've gotten back on the wagon of doing the little things my friend! I can see how it'd be easy to fall off when you're by yourself. I'll be very cognizant to not fall back into old habits after I'm on my own. Maybe i'll get a boat for the new place! Thanks for the advice and thoughts my friend!

...but I allowed myself to get lazy and not shave everyday, wear "comfortable" clothes (too often) when home alone...

HA!

wow, craziness.. I once knew of a guy that after his WW moved out of the house, wanted to paint the columns in front of the house like barber poles, hire strippers to dance on the poles and charge $30 for haircuts..

It's insane what people with sudden freedom to do whatever they want come up with, isn't it?

touche'...

So much odd stuff happening around this place...! Seems like you'd need to charge more than $30 to cover the costs inherent in such a venture. Definitely worth it though!

LT,

You are doing awesome. Congratulations on the new place and being a great dad. In terms of helping her move and stuff, you are taking the high road. If you have that in you, good for you.

Thanks brother! We will see. Feels like the right thing to do, so I'm going with it. She'll be my W until we split, so why not?