I guess that is why I put it out here for input. I thought I would have had more of a reaction. So far its just kind of indifference (almost "as if")...I'm just kind of numb to the words so far.
Coming back here has got me to thinking about that as well. What would I do if XW said she wants to reconcile? I TOTALLY understand your reaction of "indifference". I think I would be the same. The whole idea of it just seems so foreign at this point, you know? That said, I have a buddy whose wife (technically they were never married but lived together for 5+ years) went off-reservation like so many of ours do. He went from being the greatest guy in the world to scum of the earth. She left, they sold their farm and split the proceeds and that was it. For 2 years. Then she wanted to go out to dinner with him. Then again. And again. Then it turned from dinner to more. Now they're back together. What did he do to get her back? Nothing. IE- gave her time and space. I have another friend who just remarried his XW (WAS). They were apart 8 YEARS. Anyway I guess my point is WAS's do sometimes have an awakening and want to reconcile, but it's usually so far after the LBS has healed and moved on that it's a difficult decision for the LBS to decide what to do. If you want to check her interest level then ask her out to dinner. See where it goes. Good luck with whatever you decide buddy!
