Gut is telling me she will be coming up with D talk again. Gut was right about her moving out while I was gone and the A. She has brought it up several times but I begged, pleaded, said we were soul mates etc. Obviously I did the wrong thing. Even if I wanted to do the wrong thing now I couldn't. I have no more energy for it. As much as I want to see her, I wouldn't even know what to say I'm so exhausted emotionally. Outside of my marriage, my life is picking up for the good so that's something to be proud of. Trying to read up on love. Yeah I know, its silly. Come to find out, I show everyone love by acts of service. I'm terrible with physical affection, except sex (W has told me I used her for sex). Terrible with words of affirmation. Those were her two and I suspect the same for most women. I find it very hard to express my self.
Anyways, can someone review my response? I don't want to ruin anything or burn any bridges but I know it my heart I need serious work and time before my wife would even reconsider.
Wife: Dale1657, I think divorce is the right thing. I gave you 7 years and determined you wont be able to give me what I need to make me happy. I love you and you deserve the world but we just aren't right for each other.
Me: I'm sorry you feel this way wife. This is not what I want but I will no longer try to stop you. Maybe the future will have something different in store.
Guaranteed she will tell me by email or text. She breaks down in person or over phone.
Is this too nice? I want it direct and have no time to backtrack. I read the book for a second time. Im totally focused on my life now but I would like to buy some time to either show her a new Dale1657 or be mostly fine in the event of a divorce. I did indeed wait to long to DB but hey we are both still alive and kicking. Worst outcome is me cleaning up my act so I guess there are no losers.
M 1.5 years, her affair was before 1 year T 7 Years
