If I'm doing the right thing, why does it feel wrong? If I'm doing the healthy thing, why does it hurt? If I'm trying to heal, why do I feel more broken? If I'm trying to protect someone from me, then why did I hurt them?
I love Ginger's response, spot-on! The "wrong" thing was rushing into another relationship before you were ready. You ended it, but there's collateral damage because you started it in the first place. THAT is why it feels wrong, because you hurt someone. And you hurt yourself. Healing from that takes time.
As I said up above, I did the same thing. Rushed into an R too soon. It was a year post-BD for me, but that was too soon. A lot of the problem with DB'ing is we want so bad to be over BD and over our broken marriages that we convince ourselves we're better even when we're not. GIVE YOURSELF THE GIFT OF TIME.
