Here again part 7

[T384]

Thanks for the laugh ladies !

Train I also decided not to say the Ow comment. It's his first time staying here. I'll see how things unfold the next two days.

[Train]

Well, I'd hope his hands are too full of baby for him to be texting, so no need to say a word!

[T384]

Just gave him the baby. He's screaming. It breaks my heart but he can see what I do every night.

[25yearsmlc]

I completely COMPLETELY agree with 25 here. Remember: this is what H wanted!! Send him those babies to his own place!!!

And the camera is rolling...and it's at your h's place or your home but YOU are out, not available, or sleeping or whatever...but GONE...


Scene - your h and 2 boys and a baby are "interacting"...(pumped milk nearby of course) And...

"Action!"

Shrieking wail of a baby escalates into full blown ear piercing mode

and oh look - there are 2 other young boys asking their dad why the sun is yellow, when can we have that toy/drink/candy/food/story, AND where's mom??


AND "brother took my food/toy/blanket and hit/bit/kicked me!"
and then fighting with each other.

AND shrieking baby has a huge poop diaper.

ah yes, that'll be a super fun bachelor life -

[T384]

Haha yes well the other two boys are with me.

My oldest wants nothing to do with H.

He told me today he doesn't respond to H messages on his iPad. He said 'unless daddy wants to come home I don't have anything to say to him'

[Train]

Ahhhhahaha! YES! 25, you're on a roll!

T, THIS is how you give him a glimpse of the life he says he wants! You don't even have to say a word. This is, like, the equivalent of civil disobedience!

Meanwhile, I know how hard it must be to hear the baby cry. But your H is a father, and he is capable! Let him handle it.

[Train]

Sigh. Yes. Your H's actions have consequences: for himself and, unfortunately, every member of your family. Including YOU. And the boys.

[T384]

Haha both you are on a roll.

Where should I email the audio file??? I hate hearing the baby cry.

But H had been trying to tell me when I told him how he was at night donthis do that etc etc. like I don't know how to... now he can have a taste of his own medicine.

At least I know he doesn't have time to text 😂

Unfortunately though OW (boss daughter) is H age and has a son our oldest age. So she is a mom. Kind of makes it more shitty since she knows I have a newborn.

[Train]

Yeah, stay out of the OW's head. Leave it to H to have those realizations. But you can help him along by being a strong woman and mother, with your chin up ... handling YOUR business and not getting dragged down in their childish, hurtful muck.

Ain't nobody got time for that! Except people with wayyyyy too much time on their hands! But you can help H with that problem, too, by giving him the kids to watch while you're studying and working and going to school etc. etc. etc.

[25yearsmlc]

Haha both you are on a roll.

Where should I email the audio file??? I hate hearing the baby cry.

But H had been trying to tell me when I told him how he was at night donthis do that etc etc. like I don't know how to... now he can have a taste of his own medicine.

At least I know he doesn't have time to text 😂

Unfortunately though OW (boss daughter) is H age and has a son our oldest age. So she is a mom. Kind of makes it more shitty since she knows I have a newborn.

1) it took me awhile to let h manage our son as h needed to. Your h will learn. I know some babies like rocking, some like that gentle swinging thing and some like a modest little bouncy movement. We get to know each other and I now, truly believe that only by the mom exiting the area can the father figure out what works for THEM.

Your baby boy is not in danger and even if it took your h an HOUR to stop the baby from crying, the baby will survive!

Globally speaking, I mean, the baby won't grow up to be a mafioso Because of "the time daddy didn't" rock him right, or change him fast enough or yada yada. It's hard but truly you will have to back off how h does things b/c you know, he knows too...

And though I lactate just thinking about it, that's what ear phones are for. Get some.
God knows my H wore them in medical school/residency - for years - when I had our d28 and s31 was a toddler - oh and I was a full time defense attorney in the Army.

Good times! (H forgot those...maybe your h did too, but NOW he remembers!!...) It was still nice to have h at home even if he wasn't really present, but in case something wacky happened, there was (kind of) an adult nearby.

2) I loathe raising this issue but you keep going back to the possible OW

okay so if she is a true AP and not just a scheming leech who deserves utter shunning

(I am sending her my mental shunning vibes right now "Shun the Non believer")

Maybe she will get some "quality time" with ALL 3 of your sons. Sorry to your s9, "Oh yes you will see daddy b/c mommy has things to do and that's how it is and for now, get to know your baby bro and keep bonding with the middle boy."

PLUS T0, regardless of that hideous woman, OMG any form of r with that woman soooo won't last.

She has a 9 y/o son. Guess who won't be crazy about a demanding baby competing for his mom's time ?