Here again part 7

[Train]

Let me just say this: to each his/her own, but there is no way on God's green earth that I would tolerate my H sitting in our family home, texting the OW who is threatening my M and my family. (*Especially* right after I had birthed our third child!) Gee, there is truly nothing I can think of that would be worth dealing with that level of in-your-face disrespect.

T, I don't see you allowing that, thankfully. But I would encourage you to handle this tactfully and not take on the controlling angle that you oftentimes do. There's a difference in being controlling (trying to control others' behavior) and setting boundaries (telling someone what you will or won't allow in your life).

Draw your circle around you and your babies. You want H to eventually be in that circle, too. But while he's making hurtful decisions that are harmful for and to your family, you have to kinda keep him outside of it to protect yourself and your children.

There are some things that we want in tact at the end of this. Our dignity is one of the most pressing among them.