Alaska 2.0 began a & From timelines and his sudden change of tune, he met OW about 8 weeks before his planned "re-boot of the m/temporary sep" so the nest was being feathered & his landing was very softened. Not sure if that's an exit affair and an entitled A, but not too sure I care.
ANYHOW back to the FB posts
When I heard of the FB posts, they sure felt personal. Like he was punishing me for - for what? Filing? Being to blame for all his ills unhappiness? I mean, I get the blame part (not accepting it, but I get that It's not rare). I just don't get his punishing me & in public.
So, he cannot see how that looks to others?
Like HE is the aggrieved party...which is so gas lighting of him.
H's best friend & w, were "horrified" and reached out to me the day after the last "So Happy w/OW!" post. (I had been warned, & blocked h, thank God.) H's BFF says he "tried to talk to H, but h won't listen."
When I step back, I KNOW in my head that it's odd and crazy looking. And when I can step back objectively, it does help me to detach. I mean, thank God.
Like usually it rolls off my back (which I attribute to my DB experience & frankly, has impressed me with myself. )
But it sure is painful at times. And yeah, baffling.
If I were in his shoes, just wanting out of a m for my own reasons that I've justified - I cannot for the life of me grasp posting anything like "in a r" or showing photos of me kissing OM, even if I were divorced if it was at all recent. I'd be so much more discreet and considerate of the person I had been with. I'd be more discreet and considerate of someone I had dated for 6 months. We are still m.
So I realize I was holding onto a m with a person who would not be there for me down the road if I really needed him.
Someone capable of cruelty to the mother of his kids.
Yeah, this ^^ reality check does help me. And knowing that it's not rare, also helps. Sad but not unique. But it's damn mean. Neither i, nor Our kids will never see him the same way and he somehow does not know this. In fact I think a lot of folks we know won't see him in the same light. But maybe the new fan base who has heard God only knows what, that makes him the victim...
Okay I'm back off the ledge. Going to see d19 this weekend for her court appearance so that ought to be super fun...nope, h does not know, per d19's request.
S31 said "h is GONE, mom." But it's not the first parenting thing I've done on my own.
Good riddance to lunacy.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
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