It's time for you to start working on your own self-confidence. The baby is here now. Forget H and what he's doing. Start thinking about yourself and what YOU need to do.
Do you remember what he was attracted to last time? Same thing most all men are attracted to: a self-confident, assured girl who had *dropped the rope* and was moving right on without him and was lookin' fiiiiiiine and laughing with new people when he saw her at ball games.
Mmhmm. See? I remember!
You ask if history is repeating itself. Maybe. You've both found yourselves right back in the rut that landed you here last time.
You can't pull his head out of his rear, but you CAN start working on you. And I know you're strapped for time. But in the time you've been finding to think about H, you could take a power-walk ... join an exercise class ... buy a new outfit ... get a mani/pedi ... something ... ANYTHING ... to help you feel back to that good ol', strong T that I *KNOW* is in there.
What you're dealing with isn't fair. But it's still happening, whether it's fair or not. It's time to pull yourself up by those bootstraps and DO WHAT WORKS. Even if H doesn't come to his senses, you will come to YOURS. And that's where we need you right now. That's where you need yourSELF.
C'mon, T. I know you can do this.
Every day, check in here to let us know what you're doing to feel better in your own skin. Notice something you love about yourself and list it. Every, single day! Deal?
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
