WH came back. Piecing. Past the 2 year mark ...

[Coconut]

This makes me sad, not because I'm worried about you, i know you'll be ok, but because I know how dedicated you are to making it work... Not because you need to, but because you want to.

How can a M be stronger after an A? I'm no expert, but I'll give you my thoughts on it.

H & W going through M, experience the normal ruts in a M without having the tools that are available to learn how to communicate, relying instead on the fantasy belief that M is for ever, the "innocence of their S", and just suffer through daily life not knowing how to make things better.

Then, BD. Whatever process used, they end up getting back together.

Through the piecing process they learn tools to communicate, learn to be happy on their own and to share in each other's happiness, and know how to bring up issues and work together to find solutions, compromise, and feel like a team.

They find happiness and strength in the M becaus of their mutual accomplishment of working through things.

Sounds great right? But what if what you want in a M is the fantasy, you want more than anything to have the innocence? No amount of communication or teamwork can bring that back... Some people just want the fantasy back.

Not every M comes back stronger, many try, many fail, the survivors are stronger because they prefer the communication than the fantasy.

I may be way off, but just my uneducated thoughts. Blu, whatever happens, you have tried, you've made yourself vulnerable, stronger, and have compromised. I really wish the best for you, whatever the best looks like for you.