What should I be doing now (Time to Move on?)

[Coconut]

I am glad you are doing well. I wish you the best. If you are not ready to face her or the D process, then perhaps wait. Would it really make a difference in your day to day life?

Ble

Thanks Blu, I really am doing well, and the best part, is that I'm finding a new drive to do even better. I've been doing a lot of soul searching.

As for the D, no it wouldn't change my life at all, and I'm not pushing it, I put the papers down and i'll look at them again sometime in the future.

Another thing I didn't mention when I posted about filing, is that I questioned if I was doing it to get a reaction out of her; I didn't like that I even had to wonder. So it will wait for now.

Yesterday, when I was talking to my Son, he apologized for calling me so late, he said he was with his biological father and didn't want to call me from there. Out of curiosity, I asked if now that he has his license (got it a week ago) he was driving up there (it's 45 min away)... He said no, He's getting a divorce and is staying at a hotel, so he just came and picked me up.

that took me aback, and after hanging up I started really thinking about my sons side of the family.

His Bio-Father had an A on his mother (gf) when she was pregnant with him, they got back together and a year later were going to get married, the day before the wedding she called it off.

He grew up with me and his mother (from 6 yrs old until almost 17), his mother had an A, then he watched us separate (and I think he knows she had an affair).

His Bio-Father married the lady he had the A with (he doesn't know that) about 3 years ago and is now getting divorced.

Both sets of Grandparents divorced and remarried. (my W's and his bio-fathers)

on my side of the family, my Mom is the only one that has ever divorced, she was abused by my biological father and left him when I was 3. She married my father when I was 6.

No one else on my side of the family has ever divorced, I'm including 3 cousins that married by 19 (all around 20 years ago), my younger sister who's been married 15 years, and a few uncles and cousins that I know of but live out of state.

We've always included names when discussing his grandparents because he has 3 grandmas, 3 grandpas and 4 step grandparents, but I never really thought about the fact that he's never really had a lifetime commitment in his life. I wonder if that will affect his understanding of what a M is / should be.