I'm a very lucky person, but still fine tuning

[woundedfool]

I'm sure that hearing that from her is a shock to the system, something you probably longed for when the wounds were fresh, but now that you've moved on and you think about it with a level head, it's got to be difficult to decide if you even want to open that conversation.

Yea, to be totally honest: there was a touch of satisfaction deep down as I was reading it. But I don't know if it was sour grapes, or actually sadness that she is only processing this now. I should note, while I have thanked her for the messages, I have simply acted "as if"

It is amazing how not only perspective but also priorities can change in that time.

question on your signature, did she really give you the ILYBNILWY speech the day after she filed for D?

Sure! Sort of: actually I was out of town for a week, in that time she saw an attorney, filed, and moved out. She picked me up from the airport and gave me "the speech" at that point.