I'm a very lucky person, but still fine tuning

[woundedfool]

Wounded

I was looking for posts about your current situation. I mean you help me soooo much and I just started to think,,,what is going on with you. I dont see any posts about yourself.

Not even sure how I could help,,,just wondering

Thank you for the offer, but no help needed. I am content where I wound up.

While each situation is different (yet the same) mine was created with a WAW who did not (and will not) address her own demons (not implying I am without fault, or the perfect husband). So an opportunity of R never presented itself. Essentially, my situation required a full blown "hand of God" miracle to prevent a D.

Now, all that being said... While I am not holding a candle in the window for her. But.... I would still meet at a table to find if there would be a way for us to find each other again.

The alien stole her in Feb 2013, and is yet to return her... as she has told me the grass is not greener, is miserable, etc.

But I cannot put my life on hold for her, I can only work and keep myself (and child) happy & healthy. Kind of like the line from the Shaw-shank Redemption: "get busy living, get busy dying". I chose (and continue to choose) living.

[Thornton]

Thanks for this, Woundedfool.

[T384]

I personally thank you for taking time out of your day and life for that matter to help me save my marriage you have been someone I can count on to help pull me out of the darkness of this! You are an inspiration and while things did not work out the way you wanted you have truly changed yourself into a person only a fool would leave and you will find someone that will love and appreciate you in every way that you deserve. I wish you the best

[woundedfool]

I personally thank you for taking time out of your day and life for that matter to help me save my marriage you have been someone I can count on to help pull me out of the darkness of this! You are an inspiration and while things did not work out the way you wanted you have truly changed yourself into a person only a fool would leave and you will find someone that will love and appreciate you in every way that you deserve. I wish you the best

Thank you for the kind thoughts. I owe this place a debt of gratitude for helping me keep my sanity before, during and after my D.

[2BHappy]

So I want to know Woundedfool...how are you doing?

What GAL's are you doing?

You help soo much and I just want to make sure you are taking care of YOU!

Fill us in on you, if you don't mind sharing

[woundedfool]

So... I see my response to this was washed away in the great purge of September 2014 So I will take another shot at it:

So I want to know Woundedfool...how are you doing?

I am doing fine, thank you!

What GAL's are you doing?

A quick run down; and these are things I do consistently (not just a one off/lark):

• Canoeing
• Camping
• Actually took golf lessons (and joined my first league)
• Power Boating
• Fishing
• Trail/Mountain biking
• Burning my gazillion airline miles to see friends and family
• Volunteering
• Ice Hockey
• Gardening/landscaping
• Joined my local IDPA group (competitive pistol shooting), was thinking about doing a competition in the spring.
• Spent more time on my motorcycle in the last 18 months, then I have in 10 years
• Helping my friend launch his portable BBQ business
• Took 2 different foreign language classes (one I really enjoyed, so I will be taking the next level this winter)
• and not to sound Pius... but trying to give back here as much as I can. There are a few long term threads (like you) that I try to stay on top of, and keep posters motivated.

You help soo much and I just want to make sure you are taking care of YOU!

Thank you, I appreciate the concern. Just do me a favor: Down the road, regardless of how your sitch turns out.... help someone else here who feels like are in your shoes (or buy a friend or co-worker a copy of DR/DB).

Fill us in on you, if you don't mind sharing

For me on the personal side (other then GAL's):
Enjoying spending time with S8, doing the things we have always done together & coming up with new "adventures" all the time.

As far as relationships/love interests/dating: While I have not closed the door on anything, I am not seeking anything... just enjoying "being me" for a while.

[woundedfool]

I don't frequent or contribute to the forum as much as I used to. But I've been divorced since late 2013. I fully immersed myself into DB and MWD's way of thinking. It was amazing how many things she advocates are 100% on the money! The things I learned I still use in most all aspects of my life, and they have served me very well.

I have a few threads here somewhere (I even update my signature/stats as they were pretty out of date).

I kind of felt the need to post, as I've just been scratching my head on this:

About 2 months back, out of the clear blue on our former wedding anniversary I received a text from ex wife, citing our marriage vows and telling me how sorry she was for failing at our marriage.

I responded with a polite: Thank you, wish you the best etc.

Then yesterday (fathers day) I get a detailed email from her that felt about as contrite as I have ever heard her. Telling me how it was all her fault, how she wished she had tried, how every decision she has made since her walking away was wrong. The gist of the letter was asking for forgiveness, which I did forgive her quite some time ago.

I don't know if right now I am journaling, asking for advice, venting, or looking too deep into a shallow well. So feel free to throw any and all comments into this thread (even if just to say "hey").

[Coconut]

I just posted that time and distance really change perspective, I've seen my "feelings" towards my WW really change in the 6 months since we separated. I can only imagine what a few years would do.

I'm sure that hearing that from her is a shock to the system, something you probably longed for when the wounds were fresh, but now that you've moved on and you think about it with a level head, it's got to be difficult to decide if you even want to open that conversation.

question on your signature, did she really give you the ILYBNILWY speech the day after she filed for D?

[woundedfool]

I'm sure that hearing that from her is a shock to the system, something you probably longed for when the wounds were fresh, but now that you've moved on and you think about it with a level head, it's got to be difficult to decide if you even want to open that conversation.

Yea, to be totally honest: there was a touch of satisfaction deep down as I was reading it. But I don't know if it was sour grapes, or actually sadness that she is only processing this now. I should note, while I have thanked her for the messages, I have simply acted "as if"

It is amazing how not only perspective but also priorities can change in that time.

question on your signature, did she really give you the ILYBNILWY speech the day after she filed for D?

Sure! Sort of: actually I was out of town for a week, in that time she saw an attorney, filed, and moved out. She picked me up from the airport and gave me "the speech" at that point.

[Cadet]

I have a few threads here somewhere (I even update my signature/stats as they were pretty out of date).

Your threads are now merged together and the link for the last one is in the first post on this thread