Hi Coconut, after seeing your helpful posts in other threads I decided to read back in your sitch a bit. It sounds like you're doing really well! I commend you for not jumping into a new R too quickly even though the opportunity has been there. You'll know when you're ready and jumping in too soon can do more harm than good as I discovered myself.
I can relate to the difficulty you mentioned in coming here when your own sitch is still so fresh, I recently came back after being away for years and even after that much time I was surprised at how reading through other sitches really brought back a lot of the pain I went through. It reminds me of how much pain I was in, and also makes me realize how much pain the people here are in. Neither is a pleasant prospect! But if we can help others as others helped us then it's worth the discomfort.
Originally Posted By: Coconut
But coming back has caused me to reflect, and that's ok cause it doesn't hurt like it used to... And I've realized I'm a failure. Other than GAL and being more sociable, I've stopped doing the things that I want to, no, that I need to do to be a better man.
I'm a Crossfitter. Sometimes it is brutally hard, and often we're called upon to do things that we simply can't. More than once I've heard someone say "I can't do that, it's impossible for me". There's one coach in particular that always jumps in and says "no, say you can't do that AT THIS TIME!" It may seem like a minor difference, but one statement has no hope while the other does. One implies the situation is fixed, the other that it will change. You are NOT a failure. If you're failing to do something AT THIS TIME then change it! Your life is not static, it's dynamic!
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Today, I'm going to start living for me again, and stop letting the fact that I live alone be a reason to not look my best and overlook things that I would do if someone else was watching.
Great! But it's actually OK to be a little complacent now and then, I was flat out exhausted this weekend and I could have spent the entire weekend on projects but instead I slept in late (which I usually don't do) and spent a lazy day yesterday playing a co-op video game with my son. GAL'ing doesn't mean you have to go a million miles an hour ALL the time
