By the way she is slooowly starting to notice... She is seeing someone who is GAL and investing less time in her. This is starting to make her take a little more notice but she is so far into phase 1 of linmerence it has very very little affect on her as I knew it would.
That sounds like a lot of mind-reading to me. You sound very clinical about this, but this isn't a laboratory and your W isn't a lab rat. You're dealing with emotions and emotions are ALWAYS a very unpredictable moving target. I just get the impression you think you have this all figured out and you're hosting an online class to educate the rest of us, LOL! And as a result you're not really listening or paying attention to anything anyone is telling you. And I suspect THAT attitude may be a contributing factor to why you are here in the first place, and if it is then you are engaging in more-of-the-same behavior. Ask yourself if a 180 for you is to quit putting everything under a microscope and trying to convert it into an equation to be solved.
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Can I ask do you believe in the limerent process?
I know exactly what it is, and have seen it play out many times in my own sitch and those of many others. And I can promise you this- YOU CANNOT PREDICT THE OUTCOME. There are many different outcomes, one of them is she "comes to her senses" and wants to get back together, another is she falls deeply in love with OM and decides she wants a permanent R with him. There are a hundred other options that fall somewhere between those two extremes. You have to be prepared for ANY of those eventualities as 25 said. Waiting it out is NOT preparing.
