Before I actually made that decision, I told one of my mentors that I felt as if I had stayed in my M for the sake of my children, and now was I suppose to sacrifice my last chance at happiness for the sake of my grandchildren.......was there no time that I could do something for my sake? Good lord, that embarrasses me, today. It shows the sheer selfish mindset of a wayward wife who saw herself as a victim of an unhappy MR.
I think that trying to find happiness in external factors is part of the issue. Thinking another partner is going to provide happiness is an error in thinking. People are happy with themselves or not. Those that are not happy may never find happiness in something external. My ex-wife used to go shopping "retail therapy" saying that was making her happy. That worked for a while - until it stopped working. She could not spend enough money to make her happy.
We all need to look inside ourselves to make us happy. I thought for a while that unless I reconciled I would not be happy. That also only works for so long. Unless both partners want to make a relationship work and both are happy and content with themselves will a relationship work. Most people on this board are in a one sided relationship. That is not going to work until both parties are all in.
